1. Know what matters to you, personally – what you stand for, and what your values are .
2. Don’t be anxious about breaking social norms. The more often you do this, the less it bothers you.
3. Decide not to live as a people pleaser, or to get upset and take rejection personally.
4. Hang out with people who are self confident, who know what they believe in, and what they want from life. You’ll find that their self-confidence will rub off on you, too.
5. Try and work on becoming more competent in the skills and areas that matter to you. That will naturally enhance your self confidence, and develop a self image that is strong and positive.
6. Travel, and spend time with different kinds of people. That will show you how diverse attitudes and outlooks are. That is, there’s no one way of being – so find, and be, yourself.
elisa’s friends didn’t kinkshame her at all even when she literally fucked a fish and that’s the kind of love and support I need in my life
SECRETS OF THE ZODIAC SIGNS:
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Aries: Can’t handle fighting and losing people. They act like they are happy to let people go, but in reality they regret fighting and want those people back, because they hate losing people that mean something to them.
Taurus: Is afraid no one actually wants them around, and that they are easily forgotten by the people that mean the most to them, they constantly wonder if they mean anything to anyone.
Gemini: They try so hard to fit in and be friends with anyone they change who they are themselves, but would rather change than be alone, because being alone is extremely scary to them.
Cancer: Tries to act happy all the time. They feel like if they let other see them are upset, they’re disappointing them. Needs to make sure everyone around them doesn’t worry about them, no matter what the cost.
Leo: Believes they are unlovable and that everything that goes wrong is their fault, they try to act tough and like they don’t care, but deep inside, they are probably the most sensitive person you will ever meet.
Virgo: Has trouble handling life. They may seem they have everything under control and in order, but in reality they have trouble making it every hour of the day. It’s hard for them to stay positive.
Libra: Can’t be without a lover because they need to invest time on others so they don’t have to focus on themselves. Hates having to deal with their own problems, so they hide them and pretend everything is fine.
Scorpio: Is scared of getting close to people. They love being trusted by others, but have a hard time trusting others. They are afraid one day this will push everyone away, but they don’t know how to fix it.
Sagittarius: Only wants love and to be loved. When they aren’t with someone (not necessarily in a romantic way), they start to feel hopeless and like they aren’t good enough for anyone.
Capricorn: Invests in themselves trying to get to the top, so they tend to not have deep connections with anyone. They are afraid because of this they will be alone forever.
Aquarius: Doesn’t feel emotions like they think they should. They get into relationships and don’t feel anything for a while, and because of this they believe there is something wrong with them and blame themselves for it.
Pisces: Actually has no idea what they are doing in life and daydreams to make themselves feel better. Is lost and confused, but acts as if they have everything under control and hates asking for help.
What the signs are made of
Aries: adrenaline, brilliant ideas, terrible decisions
Taurus: dopamine, lipstick, the smell of rain
Gemini: glitter, drama, sugar
Cancer: tea, emotions, hope
Leo: summer vibes, gold, honey
Virgo: fresh air, anxiety, the smell of books
Libra: perfume, white lies, diamonds
Scorpio: secrets, poetry, alcohol
Sagittarius: serotonin, adventures, silver
Capricorn: success, overthinking, elaborate plans
Aquarius: stars, mirrors, magic
Pisces: clouds, art, dreams
“WRITE IT BADLY. Write it badly, write it badly, write it badly, write it badly. Stop what you’re doing, open a Word document, put a pencil on some paper, just get the idea out of your head. Let it be good later. Write it down now. Otherwise it will die in there.”
— Brandon Sanderson on overcoming writer’s block to create a first draft as a professional author (via almost-always-eventually-right)
gentle reminder
feel free to unfollow, unfriend, or disconnect from people who make you feel uncomfortable – it’s completely okay to look out for yourself and to make sure that you’re comfortable
I’VE GOT THAT FEELING, THAT BAD FEELING
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.”
— Tony Gaskins
XI. Strength
“The Strength card was originally named Fortitude, and accompanies two of the other cardinal virtues in the Major Arcana: Temperance and Justice. The meaning of Fortitude was different from the interpretation of the card: it meant moderation in attitudes toward pain and danger, with neither being avoided at all costs, nor actively wanted.”
RIP Dr. Donald Sutcliffe! And sorry for all this blood. Here’s our beloved, unforgettable Beverly Katz in my version of the twelfth Major Arcana tarot card: the Strength. Sooner or later, I’ll finish my Tarot Deck inspired by @nbchannibal.
Can you spot all the similarities between my drawing and the original card from the Marseilles Tarot Deck?
Luconnor AU: Part Time Alpha
There were few jobs that paid enough that Lucas was comfortable in anymore. He didn’t do well with crowds, strangers, or even most other alphas which made career opportunities that paid enough sparse.
Which was why the flier at the market caught his eye.
Part Time Alphas Wanted
The phone number is questionable but he calls anyway.
The building he’s directed to after a phone interview is professional looking and the next talk is even better. Within two weeks he’s given his first client.
A week later he’s given two more.
By the first six months he’s one of the most requested alphas on staff.
Then as Spring rolls in he’s given an emergency situation with a new client he’s never met before.
Mr. Joe Connor
Lucas walks up to the apartment and almost immediately is hit with a scent that makes him shudder.
Mine
He knocks on the door and waits to see those lovely eyes he remembers from the picture in Joe’s file.
The minute the door opens and Lucas is hit with the scent of desperate heat all the rest fades away.
**************
Joe’s hard glare makes his insides churn.
“I don’t think I need this anymore.”
Lucas looks away and fights the tears that want to come. “I see. If there has been something in my performance that’s unsatisfactory…”
Joe’s hollow laugh makes him look again.
“No, nothing’s…I just can’t.”
He nods. “I will see myself out.”
The walk to Joe’s door is hard and turning the knob even harder.
“You’re just gonna leave? Just like that? You won’t…”
He turns and sees Joe has his arms crossed and his face is wet with tears.
“You asked me to leave.”
“But you’re…you’re supposed to tell me no! That you….I just…”
Lucas walks over to him and touches his cheek, the tiny shiver that goes through them both a spark he doesn’t think he can live without for long.
“Tell me.”
“I…I don’t want it to be part time anymore. I can’t get you out of my head and I miss you when you’re not here. I think I’m–”
Lucas smiles. “I love you too.”
The bruising kiss he gets in response makes him want to howl, but instead all he does is hold Joe harder.
He’ll never let go.
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