How to Cope with not Being Liked

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1. Expect some people to reject you. It’s a fact of life that we won’t like everyone – and there will be people who don’t like us. It often has to do with different personalities rather than something being wrong with you.

2. Learn how to brush off rejections and put downs – at the end what matters is how you handle it. If you still act as if you are comfortable with “you” then others will respect you for your healthy self-esteem.

3. It’s often about them and not about you so try not to take rejection personally. Perhaps they are jealous or envious of you; or perhaps they’re just taking their feelings out on you.

4. People rarely see us in absolute terms. There are some things they will like and others they’ll dislike. It may be they hate one particular trait – but we’re a mix of many things – so don’t worry about that.

5. Don’t over-think what other people think or say. Distract yourself, and think of something else instead. They’re not worth the effort or the wasted energy. Just get on with your life and enjoy being you.

grshn:

Identifying negative thoughts is the first step towards changing them into positive ones. Understanding how our mind works when affected by anxiety, stress or other mental illness helps us in being able to fight those thoughts and give them less power within our mind.

Although the exercise might not solve all problems, it can help you regain a clear mind in order to think of other solutions, making it an essential stepping stone in recovery.

Take care of yourself, please. And try your best to reach out when things are difficult.

It’s going to be okay.

reach out if you need to

breathing exercise

observational/grounding exercise

identifying negative thoughts by the Happiness Institute