Tag: self help

How to feel confident? Are you confident? Do you hve any tips? Cos tbh I’m a lost cause :/

Oh god I’m the least confident person there is to be honest. I second guess most things in my life but there are times when I do feel strong. I think it’s more of a be it, do it kind of thing? I’m anxious at times when I have to socially interact (online and in real life) with new people mostly. I tend to just assume no one wants me around so I feel you completely. 

I’ve gone through times where I’m more secure in who I am so I don’t worry as much but it’s so hard. Like I see these other folks who make it look so easy and I get angry at them. Which this isn’t probably helping you at all, sorry. 

I think confidence, like a lot of things, is all in who you feel about you. If you don’t think you’re great then you’re just going to assume the rest of the world doesn’t either. So don’t let those doubts overshadow the love you might have for yourself and you might start to feel confident. If people don’t love you for who you are then there’s something wrong with them. 

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politicalprof:

nikator:

miseducatedmelanicmuse:

espressokisses:

critically-yours:

miseducatedmelanicmuse:

flyerfemalecompanion:

notoriousthuggg:

miseducatedmelanicmuse:

Please reblog, this is so important.

I needed this

Is this foreal?

Yes it’s a real service. I do volunteer work for a rape crisis support service in my city and texting is one of the features we provide as well. But just to boost its credibility, I tried it myself:

reblog to save lives!

You can also text “Steve” to 741741 if you’re a young person of color. The website for more info is stevefund.org

My understanding is that it’s more multicultural and some folks feel more comfy with that in mind!

^^^^^THIS

get help guys, please. if you’re hurting, don’t let that hurt consume you. seek help.

I never knew this. It’s spectacular.

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kimbureh:

you know I once googled how very organized housewives kept their homes super clean. And one thing they suggested was, if a task can be done in less than 2 minutes, do it right away.

And I have to think about this very often when depression tells me to delay doing things, if it tells me something is too much work right now etc.

If I can do it in less than 2 minutes I can do it no matter how exhausting it seems.

That’s what I tell myself. And it works!

I get more done and after 2 minutes I usually realize the pain doing this thing is not so horrible as my brain suggested. And then I keep going and expand the task and get real work done, holy shit

That’s…. actually brilliant. Two minutes is so short, it’s relatively an easy amount of time to FORCE yourself to work on something, even when you’re just completely deflated.

What works really really well for me is to compound annoying tasks that don’t require much thought with something actually pleasant. It took a long time to find the actual pleasant thing, but with audiobooks I can actually end up looking for chores to do because I want to continue listening to the book, and it doesn’t combine well with anything except the most mindless work.

That’s how I cleaned my bathroom top to bottom two weeks ago, after barely being able to pick up empty loo rolls from the floor for…well, months.

Self care but not as cutesy

crystals-and-honey:

  • Be sure to drink some water. if you dont like the taste of it, drink a soda or add flavoring to the water. drink some OJ. AJ. Chocolate milk, or make some tea or coffee. 
  • Eat. at least something small. a granola bar or maybe a few grapes. a pb & J sandwich or eat some candy. 
  • please do not forget to brush your teeth or hair. if youre drained or cant put much effort do one or the other. 
  • when did you last take a shower? go take one. Too drained or mentally numb? get a washcloth and wipe your face and take a shower when you feel better. 
  • change clothes. i dont care if its from pjs to a new set of pjs. do it. 
  • bathroom. do you need to use it?
  • change your underwear. please do. it feels great believe me.
  • feel like crap and dont want to do much? do a quick 5 minute cleaning whether its ridding trash, or taking dishes up or quickly cleaning off your bed for you to lay back down and stare out the window.
  • play a game on your phone. that shit just helps sometimes.
  • feel groggy? open a window. too hot? place a fan near your feet. 
  • room stink cause its trashy? take out the trash. spray some febreeze or essential oil or a candle. 
  • do some laundry. 
  • dont wanna watch tv cause nothing good is on? put on some cartoons and use it as back ground noise. 
  • 5 minute stretches. 
  • read a book or a page or so. 
  • reorganize something small.
  • sit on your front or back porch if you can. 
  • lay in a sunny warm spot of your home. 
  • cry if you need to.
  • make up your bed. its worth it. 
  • dust something. 
  • get out of the chair or bed for a bit. 
  • give your eyes a rest from technology. 
  • play some music whatever your mood is.
  • take your damn meds. they will help you. its okay.

Please take care of yourself. little by little. and please remember youre doing the best you can, youre valid, youre fighting, youre awesome. Mental health is important. Mental illness sucks. help your body out. your body is you and its keeping you alive.

gentle reminder

gentle-reminder:

self-doubt is hard, especially when it causes you to second guess every single thing you say, and every single thing that you do – please know, as cliche as it sounds, that you can get through this, you are fantastic, you are a great person and a good friend; please try your best to not be so hard on yourself whenever you’re able